Friday, May 29, 2015
Why I Won't Shut Up about the Duggars
I am not so hasty. The Duggars' scandal is deeper than even the atrocities committed against the young women Josh sexually assaulted. It's representative of a deeper problem within evangelical churches. This article by Lyz Lenz, explains the deeper problem well.
The solution is not going to come from changing policy within evangelical churches. The solution is going to come from women standing up for themselves and no longer tolerating abuse and being forced to protect abusers. Lyz Lenz's article explains how women are blamed and held responsible for much of male abuse. She's right and this is insane.
The solution to stopping abuse within evangelical churches is for women to rise up and stop it.
We are daughters of Abraham. Since when does a daughter of Abraham have to stand down?
We have to say a collective "NO" when it comes to abuse of all kinds.
We are the only ones who can stop this epidemic in our churches.
When abuse happens and we are told to forgive and the abuser gets off with a simple apology, we have to push for more.
As Lyz Lenz said in her article, "Abusive personalities seek closed systems in which to abuse, and the mainstream Evangelical church provides that in spades." And she is right. We women have to reject the idea of a closed system and make the decision that no abuse will be hidden, that no abuse will go unreported, that no abuse will be allowed to continue and that abusers do not get off with a simple apology.
No doubt, God is full of mercy, grace and truth. He is also full of justice. Those who let a sex offender off with a simple apology are practicing cheap grace. Grace is free, but it was not cheap.
We women have power to stop abuse in our churches. It's high time we exercised that power.
We can't allow ourselves to be part of the problem....part of a system that covers up, minimizes and allows this abuse to continue.
Let no one silence you as you speak out to stop abuse. As a daughter of Abraham, no one has the power or authority to stop you from stopping abuse.